Emotional Vampires Will Drain Your Energy. These Are The 5 Types Of People To Avoid

Emotional vampires or better known as energy vampires can cause havoc on your energy levels if you don’t learn how to protect yourself against these 5 types of people.

Although emotional vampires may come in many forms—bosses, friends, family members, and spouses among them—the one thing they have in common is that they know how to steal people’s energy.

So how do you spot an Emotional Vampire and How do you protect yourself from them?

The first and most important step is to recognize that you are being drained by another person’s negative energy. As soon as you realize this, you can take steps to protect yourself.

The second step is to avoid these types of emotional vampires. If you can’t, try to minimize your contact with them as much as possible

HOW TO SPOT A EMOTIONAL VAMPIRE

Emotional vampires are people who drain your energy. They do this by being toxic to your mental health and interfering with the way you feel about yourself, usually by making you feel guilty or bad about yourself.

An Emotional Vampire exhibits many of these Narcissistic Behaviors

Try to make you feel crazy when they act aggressively;
Gets angry and avoid you when you criticized or challenged them
Blams you for their mistakes.
Making you feel guilty for not being at their disposal
Needs constant praise for something they did for you
Acting as if they are more important then the people around them

If you know an energy vampire then you know how exhausting they can be to be around and their manipulation tactics they use to get what they want. This can include putting you down in front of others, trying to make you feel sorry for them, guilt-tripping you, or making fun of any mistakes that you might make

People who have these types of narcissistic behaviors will use any means to take the focus off their negativity. They may even make it sound like they’re trying to help or spend time with you out of the goodness of their heart—when in reality, they are only doing these things so that they can feed off your negative emotions and make themselves feel better.

KNOW THE WARNING SIGNS OF A EMOTIONAL VAMPIRE

These types of people are dangerous and if you are not careful they will create havoc in your life and drain your energy, time, money, and even your spirit. They’re not just people who want to take from you; they’re people who want to take something from you. And when this happens over a long period of time, it can make someone feel as if their life is falling apart.

A few of the behaviors an Emotional Vampire might have

Always make themselves the center of attention. They want everyone to pay attention to what they’re saying, and if someone tries to talk about something else, an energy vampire will quickly turn the conversation back to themselves. Because of this, people around them often feel exhausted after spending time with them

Often makes dramatic statements about how bad their life is, how everyone else treats them badly or how enemies are constantly out to get them. When you try to offer a more positive perspective, they will often reject it. They’ll tell you that their life is terrible and there’s nothing anyone can do about it.

Will drain you financially by asking for loans that never get paid back; asking if they can use your car every time they need it, or constantly asking for favors without ever offering any compensation in return. If you say no, they will guilt trip or manipulate you into giving into them by making you feel like a bad friend, spouse, worker.. etc

Puts a strain on your physical well-being by asking for help when they know you are tired or not feeling well. Or they may be expected you to be at their beck-in call and run errands for them at all times of the day. They even cause you to lose sleep by calling you late at night and asking for advice, or by texting you all day long.

Drains your spiritual energy by criticizing religious beliefs they don’t agree with. It could be putting your religion down during holidays, trying to point out what they think is wrong about your beliefs, or might even say your beliefs are foolish and nonsense.

SPOTTING A VAMPIRE

The signs of an emotional vampire are easy to spot once you know that they are masters at manipulation and mind games. So if you feel like someone is playing with your emotions or putting you down, chances are they may be an emotional vampire.

These types of people have a tendency of playing the martyr role when things don’t go their way or someone says something they don’t like; this gives them more power over other people because it makes them look like the victim while the other person looks like the mean or unsupportive one.

Because of their narcissistic behavior, they have no problem using manipulation to get what they want. They might say things like “I’m sorry I made such a big deal about this! I just wanted us to spend more time together; I didn’t mean anything else by it! Please forgive me!” Their apologies may seem sincere at first but then later reveal themselves as empty promises

They are experts at guilt-tripping others into doing what they want and this can leave victims feeling confused and even resentful for having been manipulated in such a way.

Not who are the Emotional Vampires are?

Just look at how they treat others. If someone always has something negative to say about others, it could be a sign that they are an energy vampire. They will try and manipulate you into thinking that you’re better than other people, in hopes to lure you away from other them, by making you think they are not worth your time. Make sure not to fall victim to their tactics because if you do, it might lead down a path of self-destruction.

5 TYPES OF EMOTIONAL VAMPIRES

The Narcissist

A narcissist will use everything in their arsenal to make you doubt yourself and your sanity.

People with narcissistic behavior are self-absorbed and cannot see beyond their own needs, wants, and desires. It’s no surprise that a narcissist will use gaslighting techniques to control your thoughts, emotions, and actions through constant

Criticism and manipulation. They will do this by making you feel like you are not good enough, that you are always wrong and that you need to change who you are in order for them to be happy with their relationship.
Gaselighting by blaming you when they have done something wrong. They will make you feel like it was your fault, or that you are crazy for thinking what happened was not their fault.
Pointing out people’s flaws or faults to make themselves feel better about themselves. They will do this by pointing out the flaws of others or making fun of them in order to make themselves feel better about who they are and what they have done.
Controlling, jealously, and possessiveness over their victim, they will try to make sure you are not talking to anyone else by making them feel insecure about themselves or their relationship with you

These types of emotional vampires are a master of gaslighting and taking the focus on their own negative traits. They do this by constantly using others as scapegoats for their own shortcomings.

Challenging their narcissistic behavior and their belief system will cause them to go “ape shit” on you. They will often become verbally abusive and make you feel as if there is something wrong with you or that it is your fault. These types of emotional vampires have very low self-esteem and will use any means necessary to cover up their true selves.

The Victim

Victims are people who always find a reason to complain. They blame others for their problems, and they never seem satisfied with any decision you make for them. Victims often feel angry, sad, jealous, and afraid—but their negative emotions are usually rooted in an unwillingness to accept responsibility for their own lives.

Victimhood mentality can take over anyone—but there are certain behaviors that help identify this chronic condition:

They constantly complain about their lives, but never take action to improve it.
They blame other people for their problems and refuse to accept responsibility for anything that goes wrong in their lives.
Their negative emotions are rooted in an unwillingness to accept responsibility for themselves and their own lives, which is why they feel so much anger, sadness, jealousy, and fear.
They have a victim mentality that prevents them from feeling empowered to take control of their lives and improve it in any way.
They are constantly looking for someone else to fix their problems when things go wrong in their lives.

These king of energy vampires can be very exhausting to be around since they never take responsibility for their actions or make any changes that might help them improve themselves or the situation they are currently in.

The Controller

Controllers seek to control the actions of others through manipulation and dominate others by bossing them around.

The root cause of these traits is because they lack trust in themselves or others. Controllers may be perfectionists, who believe that they must be in charge of everything because no one else can do a better job than them (even if it’s not true).

They tend to be bossy and demanding of others because they need everyone around them to follow their rules so that nothing goes wrong.
They expect everyone around them, to do things exactly how THEY would have done it instead of allowing for creative input from someone else.
They are often perfectionists and have trouble delegating tasks because they assume that no one else can do it as well.
They are not very good listeners and can be defensive when someone tries to explain something from their own point of view.
They tend to focus on being right instead of finding a solution that works for everyone involved
They don’t like being wrong, so they try to convience people into thinking that they are right by constantly correcting others’ mistakes.

The best way to deal with these types of emotional vampires is to set boundaries around what you will and will not tolerate. Let these energy vampires know that they don’t have the right to tell you what they can or cannot do, and then stick to it. If they continue to try and control your life then it may be best for you both if they leave

The Chatterbox

The chatterbox dominates conversations, by interrupting others and showing little concern for what is being said. They talk about themselves and what they think but are not interested in hearing your opinion or life story. They may listen to you or act like they’re paying attention when you talk, but their real focus is elsewhere.

It can be very hard to have a deep conversation with a chatterbox, and if you try you may feel your energy drained by the end of the conversation. The reason it can be so draining talking to a chatterbox is that they

Don’t make good conversationalists because they never give the other person a chance to get a word in edgewise.
Are difficult to engage in conversations with because they are always talking about themselves.
Often repeat themselves, which can be frustrating for the listener. They tend to talk about the same things over and over again without ever moving on or addressing any new ideas.
Rarely ask questions about what you think or want in life because they are so focused on their own thoughts and opinions.

It can be hard to keep up a conversation with these types of emotional vampires since they are constantly talking and not giving another person a chance to contribute to the conversation.

The Drama Queen/King

the dramic emotional vampires are people who are always in the middle of a crisis. They constantly talk about their problems and the problems of their friends and family, without any regard for how it might affect them.

No matter the situation may it be big or small it will require everyone’s focus and attention to fix the problem. If you have this type of person in your life you will find that

They are extremely dramatic over every situation and seem to be in a constant state of crisis.
They like to gossip and make mountains out of molehills.
They seem to attract trouble and expect everyone else to fix the problem they created.
They expected everyone to be there when they need them, no matter what was going on with the other person or what they are dealing with

The reason why this narcissistic behavior can be so draining is that it puts all your attention on them at the expense of yourself. Their issue becomes more important than yours to fix, no matter what other personal issue you may have to deal with. When this happens, it becomes harder for your mind to focus on anything else but what’s going wrong with them

LEARN TO SHEILD YOURSELF FROM EMOTIONAL VAMPIRES

If you’re a victim of any of these types of emotional vampire, please do not take it personally. Vampires are not born; they’re made. They are created by family dysfunction and trauma, so no one is to blame. Their behavior is a result from their upbringing and have not yet learned how to heal from it.

Though it’s not their fault, doesn’t mean it gives them the right to take their pain out on the people around them or use gaslighting as a way to deflect their pain. Unless they want to take steps to heal, then you should consider protecting yourself from them and moving on.

If you’re constantly being drained, it’s time to take action. Before you can heal there are a few steps to take with the energy vampire in your life.

Recognize that a person is an emotional vampire and limit your conversation with them.
Do not get sucked into the drama or negativity they create.
Limit the time you spend around them.
Do not let this person take advantage of your good nature and kindness.
Always surround yourself with positive people who are supportive and loving.
Understand that this person is not a bad person, but they are dealing with their own personal issues.
Do not let yourself be manipulated by them and to make you feel guilty or ashamed for any reason

Once you have set up your boundaries with this person in your life, then you can start to heal from their draining energy and protect yourself from any future encounters with any of these types of emotional vampires

Prevent These Types of Emotional Vampires from Entering Your Life

AVOID THEM

This is probably the easiest and most obvious way to avoid becoming a victim of energy vampires. If someone is displaying these symptoms, it’s best that you keep your distance and avoid them altogether.

DO NOT ENGAGE WITH THEM

Energy vampires are often very manipulative people who know how to get others on their side or make themselves sound like they’re in need of help. It’s important not to fall for this trickery and give them any attention whatsoever! If someone seems like they’re trying too hard, just ignore them and move along with life rather than taking time out of your day just so they can feed off your positive energy!

DO NOT GIVE THEM ATTENTION

If this person knows they can suck you in (no pun intended) they will keep feeding off your energy for as long as they can. If a negative person knows that they can’t get past your boundaries, they will eventually move on ( after many attempts). But if you give them attention, they will keep coming back for more. It’s a cycle that you don’t want to be a part of because it will drain your energy and leave you feeling drained and used when all is said and done.

Take Away

Be mindful of your energy levels in relation to other people in your life. These types of emotional vampires can be draining, and it is important that you do not fall into their trap. By being aware of their behavior patterns and how they affect you can help protect your energy and mental wellbeing. If you are not able to fully avoid them then you need to set up boundaries with and enforce them.